saw a funny little article on cnn.. .
one part of the article that annoyed me was this line:excessive thoughts or anxiety when not online.
be careful that you don't have "excessive thoughts", guys!
Well addict.. I'm not sure I am yet or not
When you as a parent start arguing with your kids because you want the computer all the time .. TOOOOOOOO!!!!
Does that make me now an addict.. or just like one of my kids.
I have one kid bugging me right now..(It's my turn!! You had the computer for 2 hours"..
Special K
just in case...because someone i know...moonbeam...hasn't made her presence made officially, but i thought: 'what the heck'.
i wanted to kickstart it for her.. she's a darling, and when she gets all this stuff figured out, we'll see her on here soon.. she resides in the new england part of the u.s.a. .
but in the meantime, and if you don't mind.
Hey moonbeam
Welcome to the forum and I look forward to your posts.. Soon
Special K
what a load of rubbish.
what's with the rule that says that ladies have to wear a skirt/dress to all meetings/service etc.?
jesus wore a dress, does that mean that the men have to as well?
Well they'll never know who is wearing a thong under that skirt.
Next thing they'll be looking to make sure you have panty lines..
and they'll be asking if you have a "thong" on.
THONGS.. Thats the way to go.
Hehe
Special K
i am a "worldly" person, not of any religion and am soon to be marrying a long-term disfellowshipped jehovahs witness.
she has not been of the religion for over a decades time and seemingly her immediate family has accepted this through the years.
we've traveled across country together so she could introduce her family to me and have not had any problems.
Hey voxel..
nice meeting you in chat last night... but I hadn't read your topic yet , .. so some of us were a bit goofy in chat .. sorry about that.
This is a weighty matter to think about, stressful too.
I concur with another poster that for her parents to go from nice an accepting to .. hey we aren't coming..shows that they are not going with what was in their heart but are being influenced by the elders of the Watchtower Society.
It is very sad..that they will not be coming to your wedding..and I am sure this will upset your fiance for sure..She will be sad about that as well as you.
However, try to keep her in the correct mind set..That."this is not her fault" They are the ones who are choosing to cast off because of this religion.
Dont let them make her feel that this was "her choice".. She has already made her choice, obviously, and invited them to the wedding.. and they are the ones who have responded to that invitation in a negative way.
I would perhaps make sure that my wedding was video taped in depth and would forward them a copy..because they are caught up in this web of religious ferver..even though their basic instinct is probably to be there. They may keep the video and watch it in private . and see the joy on both your new wifes face as well as your own.
I wouldn't suggest becoming a J.W.. that truly is emotional blackmail. I believe you would surely regret it. Investigate J.W. teachings here and I am sure you will make the right decision about joining..
If you think her parents have been flip-flopping.. wait until you see how this religion is flip flopping and messing up families lives.
Some parents forget their role with their children (.. and J.W. parents, by majority almost always do.... That role is to help your child to grow up and be as true to their thoughts and decisions and choicesin life. and to support them in those decisions (even if we don't think they are right).
Life is to be lived and not "controlled" by parents or anyone else.
Bring her to the forum if you can.. She will meet many here who share this same problem with their parents.
Best wishes (get married in love, voxell)
and meet you in chat another time
sincerely
Special K
okay, i think i'm crazy; and i think i need therapy.
well here's a rundown of my life: .
born; molested by cousin; best friend murdered by her father; eating disorder; abusive boyfriends; betrayed by best friend of 15 years; disfellowshipped; married after 6 months of dating; disowned by family; moved cross-country where i don't know anyone (this is only a partial list of course).
Hey stinkypants,
You sure have had a lot of things on your plate...toooooooo many.
72 hours without sleep....
Now that is severe sleep deprivation
That alone is enough to run dont walk to your doctors office. I do hope you get some help with all this terrible stuff you have been through..
I hate it when insurance won't cover therapy for someone who could use it.
If you go to your doctor maybe she/he can help you figure something out.
A lot of good in put here from friends on the board.
I enjoy your post and I am concerned for you.
You please get yourself some help with all this.. you have been carrying all this around for far far too long. People aren't meant to carry this weight of stuff around since childhood.
sincerely
Special K
i got married while i was a jw and have been married for 16 years.
the last 10 years have been totally loveless, and we have merely existed under the same roof, nothing more.
now that i've disassociated myself we have nothing in common at all.
iiz2cool
WOW!! Look at all the people who have given you so much good information.
I'm impressed with everyone of them...WOW!!!
Divorce is never fun, even if it is the best thing for both concerned.
One step at a time, izz2cool. .. one step at a time...
Take care and my thoughts are with you as you proceed down this long and winding road.
Special K
i am bored.. i must not be accustomed to having a normal life or something.
i have too much time, and nothing to do with it.
it's been 7 weeks and 3 days since i sent my letter of disassociation.
Hey iiz2cool
Fitness club sounds great..
It will get you moving and give your metabolism a boost... and you meet people there.
Do you have an old hobby that you used to like .. You might want to pull that out.
If you recently Disassociated yourself you'll have alot more free time to do something that..
YOU WANT TO DO...
Take this time to figure out what that might be..
and have some fun while your at it.
Special K
a few days ago i sent a message to an elder(one of the ones from my jc) asking him if he could get in contact with my girlfriend because i was very worried about her.
after the meeting tonight he asked if he could have a chat with me outside the hall.
he explained that he could not get in contact with her, as she was out of his jurisdiction.
Hey Gadget,
Sounds like your having a real rough time of it. Sometimes talking to an elder is like talking to a "WALL!!
This elder is a jerk.. but then again how many elders real have any training on dealing with a person who is talking of suicide.
You might want to take a look at
Winston Smith post on
August 5... titled "My wife and I meeting with two elders. Their true colours shine through.." his wife is also having some suicidal thoughts.. You might glean something from the thread there.
I hope your girl does get some professional help, which I see after reading a further post that she is seeing her doctor weekly...etc
Do the best you can Gadget I'm behind you 100%
Hope you have a close friend to lean on .. or maybe someone on the forum you are closer to that you can tell them your inner thoughts.
Take care, Man....
sincerely
Special K
interesting story seeing as part of the surrender in gulf war 1, iraq was not suppose to have these and it is interesting as to just how far the regime was willing to hide stuff.
hawk .
http://story.news.yahoo.com/news?tmpl=story&cid=540&e=23&u=/ap/20030801/ap_on_re_mi_ea/iraq_air_force_2u.s.
I thought it was weird that sadam had all these planes buried
Didn't make any sense.
I suppose if I was going to hide something in Iraq.. stuffing them inthe sand would be my first choice.
Hitler had some of his fortunes dumped in lakes to hide them.
I just wonder how much they'll go for on .. E BAY? but I havent' seen them on there yet.
Special K
dr pawlowski from wroclaw university, poland, has found that the perfect height ratio to find your ideal partner.
aparently the man should be 1.09x taller than the woman.
this would give my ideal partner height at 5ft, which more than half of my girlfriends have been!!!.
Maybe the Governing body is instigating this.
There always trying to get us to measure up ..to something.
Damn, them... I'm not perfect again!!
Special K
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